I saw the Incredibles message as being more "might makes right", and that only some are truly special. I'm a more "golden rule" fellow myself, and believe anyone can be truly special. It reminded me of predestination and rubbed me the wrong way.
Regarding the other pixar flicks, i got vibes like loyalty, self-sacrifice, determination, and courage. You could find these in the incredibles too, but with the added crap i mentioned above, which spoiled the "positive" vibe
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